Posted by: Barbara Abdinor
in MyBlog on Nov 23, 2010
I have a four year old boy and while he stopped wearing nappies for the most part ages ago, he was somehow terrified of sitting on the toilet for a number 2. I questioned and probed but couldn't get exactly what the fear was. I joked and cajoled but nothing worked. Things got a bit tense between us until one day he pronounced that he would poo on the loo when he was 4.
I was instantaneously struck by the intention in his voice. I have worked with acts of power before and I saw that he could be assisted in his own act of power. I would have a toilet using child (yay) and he would be getting a profound teaching. It was very easy from that day on to carry on with nappies, we had a deal!
I wanted him to stay focused on the intention without putting any pressure on him in the present moment. I regularly asked him if he was still going to use the toilet on his birthday. He practised sitting on the contraption that we bought for the toilet that helped him feel stable (with his nappy on). We even celebrated and got excited about the future together. I told him how if he prayed to have the courage to do it, he would be supported and that the angels were delighted that he had made this commitment and they would help him. I also told him that because he had chosen his birthday he would get extra special help in facing his fears. We also regularly counted down how much longer till his birthday.
Posted by: Barbara Abdinor
in MyBlog on Mar 25, 2010
Perhaps if you have read some of my other post you will have resonated with my increasing unease with the socio political situation in South Africa.
http://www.2ndmiracle.co.za/web/blog/where-are-we-heading-.html
Posted by: Barbara Abdinor
in MyBlog on Mar 10, 2010
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Posted by: Barbara Abdinor
in MyBlog on Mar 09, 2010
I recently read this brilliant article called ‘South Africa and The New World Order' by Leonard Gentle.
http://www.sacsis.org.za/site/article/421.1 I think it provides an excellent big picture perspective on what is going on in the corridors of power, in South Africa and the world.
Later on I read another article ‘On Protest Hotspots and Analytical Blind Spots' by Jane Duncan http://www.sacsis.org.za/site/article/439.1. It offers a sharp focus on the building tension in South Africa. I think the reality of what is going on becomes pretty clear when they are read together.
I think Gentle did a fabulous job of summing up much of the middle class sentiment.
Posted by: Barbara Abdinor
in MyBlog on Mar 08, 2010
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Since doing some of the sexual shadow squares I have been getting some more insights into the issue.
I have known for a while that my own sexuality (feminine) is tied up with the notion of surrender. In order to have the feeling of being in love, happy romance kind of stuff, I have to feel surrendered and I have to let go into trusting my lover completely. That is the bottom line of what makes it nice.
Posted by: Barbara Abdinor
in MyBlog on Mar 04, 2010
Reading Glenda's recent post, 'The Benefits and Joy of doing Selfless Sevice', http://www.2ndmiracle.co.za/web/blog/the-benefits-and-joy-of-doing-selfless-service.html and how that had been a bid for power for her, inspired me to share my own recent bid for power, actually two bids for power.
We recently bough a beautiful old house in Durban.
Posted by: Barbara Abdinor
in MyBlog on Feb 02, 2010
I am beginning to see that we are going to be hitting a chaos point again after the world cup this year.
One of the ways that the energy in SA is stabilised is by the Elephant herds, mainly in the KNP and it is increasingly looking like there is going to be a cull right after the world cup. I am beginning to get wind of trouble brewing from other sources, in fact I just read this:
Posted by: Barbara Abdinor
in MyBlog on Feb 01, 2010
A few days ago after doing a square I felt a very powerful energy release. It was so intense I felt like my whole upper body was restructuring. I was quite surprised because in many ways when I began the square it didn't feel so much like my stuff. It was this square:
http://www.2ndmiracle.co.za/web/blog/work-squares.html
Posted by: Barbara Abdinor
in MyBlog on Jan 29, 2010
Posted by: Barbara Abdinor
in MyBlog on Jan 21, 2010
A few years ago when my second child had just arrived things were in such chaos in our home that I employed the sister of my domestic worker to help out on Saturday Mornings.
I always like to get to know the people who work in my home so we have had many conversations. Quite a number of them have revolved around her ‘permanent job'. She is employed by a family who live round the corner. They live in Umhlanga Rocks so we can assume that they are well off enough. I have also heard of reports of new cars, holidays and other costly items.
